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“What Shall A Man Give In Exchange For His Soul?” — Debbie Kea

In the 1950’s and 60’s when I was a child it seemed that sin was a man’s business. Men abused their wives (and sometimes their children), men committed adultery, and men abandoned their families. They had the freedom and the power—and they used it. At least that’s how it seemed—and it was true in many cases.

Women were faithful. They took care of their children, and they made ends meet with what little they were given. You rarely heard women curse, they usually dressed appropriately, and they were considered godly—at least in most cases. At least that’s how things appeared to me as a child.

To say times have changed in America is an understatement. Women now commonly leave their husbands and often abandon their children as well. Every sexual sin is shared by both genders today. Women have given in to the worldly ways of drinking, drugs, little clothing and less respect. Their freedom has led them to self-satisfaction, even to the point of aborting their own children.

Yes, we’ve come a long way. We have greater freedom and power—and look at what we’ve “profited!” Or rather, what we have given in exchange for our souls! Women have “profited” by gaining careers. I remember hearing women say they could have it all—a husband, family, and a career. And in the quest for it all, they gave up being “keepers at home” (Tit. 2:5). Many times their career even meant giving up their husband and/or children. Some women have had to work outside the home, I know that. My mother did when my dad left us. I became a teacher when my children went to school, but my home remained my number one focus and responsibility. My marriage and my family were not cast aside for the sake of my career.

Women have “profited” by gaining new roles. Women are running businesses, so why can’t they run the church? They can be president. Why can’t they be the head of their homes? The pendulum has swung, and unfortunately women have ignored God’s Word for the sake of so-called equality. “Modern thought” and “culture” are considered more important than the apostle Paul’s decree from the Holy Spirit: “..the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and he head of Christ is God” (1 Cor 11:3; note especially Eph. 5:23-24 and 1 Tim. 2:12-15 as well).

Sadly, many women have been fooled into living the “Perfect American Mother” role. They are more concerned about their children winning the scholarship, or becoming captain of the soccer team or cheerleader squad, or being popular or getting into a certain school than they are about their soul—about their Bible class homework or their treatment of others or their lives of service or worshipping properly. The world has re-defined what being a good mother is—but God’s definition remains! That definition always begins with proper priorities—seeking God and His righteousness first (Matt 6:33). That should be our main concern with our kids.

Women have “profited” by gaining the freedom in many more areas to make bad choices. God has always given mankind the freedom to choose. Yet now our freewill has been challenged by Satan. If you really are free (like men), why don’t you (fill in the blank)? Women have made every bad choice out there. Yes, we are free to choose any bad man who comes along (foolishly not considering how a mate who’s not a Christian can lead us away from the Lord). We are free to wear anything we want (never considering how we can cause a man to sin through lust). We are free to do whatever we want in our families (never considering how our behavior can ruin our relationship with our husband, teach our children self-serving ways, and cause our homes to crumble). We are free to seek popularity instead of godliness and seek personal happiness instead of holiness and money instead of God Himself (Matt 6:24; 1 Pet 1:15; Matt 6:2).

Women have “profited” by gaining selfishness. Yes, we can now have our way in so many areas. Like a child, women are yelling, “You’re not the boss of me!” and therefore becoming enraptured with self. “Deny thyself, take up thy cross, and follow me daily” (Lk. 9:23; Matt 16:24). Selfishness cannot be a part of the Christian heart—man or woman.

Women have “profited” by gaining equal access to worldliness. Yes, many are gaining the whole world but losing their own souls! The whole world — status, worldly goods, applause, approval, employment, and pleasure in every form — everything that seems to satisfy. Women can enjoy it all, but the irony is the world does not bring true happiness or joy. Now that women have equal access, they also enjoy the cost of worldly living. Their health is ruined and their beauty fades. They spend their lives seeking approval and love, not realizing they are really seeking God. Any satisfaction they find is only temporary (Matt. 5:6). Acquiring things only makes them want more. Love is short-lived because it is actually lust. Family relationships and true friendships are destroyed because the worldly woman isn’t willing to give of themselves for long. Making self happy is the priority.

God’s woman today truly profits her soul when she is selfless, willing to deny SELF and enthroning Jesus instead (Matt. 4:10). She truly profits when she is sacrificial, willing to lose her life for Christ’s sake (Matt. 16:25). She truly profits when she is serving, willing to serve in love, knowing she will be rewarded (Gal. 5:13). She truly profits when she is submissive, willing to submit to God, her husband, and others out of humility (Jas. 4:7; Eph. 5:25; 1 Pet. 5:5). She truly profits when she is sincere, willing to obey out of a true heart with gratitude and sincerity (Matt. 5:8; Eph. 6:24; Josh. 24:14).

In spite of cultural changes, God’s words remain the same (Is. 40:8). They will judge us in the last day (Jn. 12:48). God does not change (Mal. 3:6). We as women must stand strong, “steadfast and immovable” (1 Cor. 15:58), not allowing those about us to mold us but endeavoring to be transformed into the image of God’s dear Son. What are you giving in exchange for your soul?

Debbie is the author of Forty Years on the Second Pew, Am I Brave Enough?, and Staying Close to the Shepherd (yeomenpress.com).

What Eve Has Taught Me – Debbie Kea

Eve. Mother of all living. First woman. First wife. First sinner. I’ve heard women speak negatively about Eve for most of my Christian life. But as I have studied her, I have developed a great sympathy. Let me show you why.

Sin.  We are all well aware that Eve was deceived by Satan (Gen. 3:4-7). She learned that just because something looks good doesn’t mean it is good. She learned that the Devil lies. She learned to listen to God.   We are critical of her; yet who of us has not sinned? The apostle Paul declares that all have sinned (Rom. 3:23). As I review my own sins, I feel pity for the first woman. There is no record of any other sins of Eve, but this one teaches us serious lessons.

Obedience.  God’s first law was a law of obedience to Adam and Eve (Gen. 2:17). They were clearly instructed by God not to eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. Obedience to God’s laws remains for all of us today if we are to be pleasing to our Maker. We must not only obey God’s commands but we are also to teach obedience to our children and our grandchildren. A lack of respect for authority has become one of the worst problems of our society. Lawlessness reigns in our world. Most importantly, this disobedience separates us from God.

Blame.  We have played the blame game since the beginning and we continue it still! When accused, it’s usually the first thing we humans do—point to someone else. It’s a rare individual that takes personal responsibility for his actions. Adam started this habit by blaming “the woman thou gavest to be with me” and Eve continued by pointing at “the serpent” who beguiled her (Gen.3:12-13). They both knew the truth; that’s why they knew they were naked—their guilt. Our task now as humans is to build our character so that we will be strong enough to admit our sins, repent of them and grow! We must be responsible for our own actions—to God and others. We must be willing to say, “Yes, it was me and I’m sorry.”

Power and Influence.  Eve teaches me that women have great power and influence. Adam was created first and had the responsibility to be the spiritual leader of his home; therefore, Adam should have stopped Eve from disobeying God but he didn’t.   We, as women, must recognize our role in the home as God’s plan. Paul tells us man was not created for the woman but the woman for the man (I Cor. 11:9). Submission and subjection are not inferiority. They are the role that God has given us as women. However, our influence and power can only be for good when we allow our husbands to lead our homes. We must use our influence for good there as well as everywhere we go.

Suffering.  Women have endured suffering since Eve sinned. She was banished from the garden. She suffered in childbirth. Most of us who are mothers understand this well. She suffered over her children. One of her sons was a murderer, and one of her sons was killed. She suffered great loss with both of them. We learn that children who grow up in the same household may very well take different paths in life.   Eve suffered watching her husband work by the sweat of his brow for over 900 years! Sin brings suffering.   Eve learned this.

Desire.  God told Eve that she would have desire only for her husband. This seems an odd thing to say at a time when Adam was the only man there! But as I think about this, I am reminded of many women whose desire is not for their husband but for other things, such as money, career, popularity or a variety of other cares of the world. Unfortunately, today we Christian women are considered peculiar if we care about what our husband wants instead of what we want. This is one of the contributing factors to the destruction of the home in our world now. The world sees nothing wrong with a woman satisfying a man in her career or job; yet Christian women are ridiculed for wanting to satisfy or help their husbands to be happy in their marriage!

Wisdom.  Satan tried to convince Eve that she could be as wise as God. We must not let Satan fool us in this. Instead of trying to be as wise as God, we need to recognize His power and greatness and our dependence upon Him! “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction” (Prov. 1:7). If we would truly be wise and happy, we would come to the One Who gives wisdom, knowledge and understanding (Prov. 2:6; 3:13).

Salvation.  Like me, Eve needed salvation. God, through His lovingkindness, provided from the beginning a way for Eve to be saved, to be brought back into a right relationship with Him. Jesus would come and bruise the head of the serpent, Satan (Gen. 3:15). And my obedience through faith would find access to the Lord’s saving blood (Rom. 5:1-2; 6:1-4). God did not leave Eve without hope. Jesus’ blood reaches back to her (Heb. 9:15). Neither does He leave us hopeless, for Christ is the Savior of the world if we would hear His voice (John 10:27; 3:17; Heb. 2:9).

Eve, mother of all living, continues to teach us lessons today. Though I am empathetic, it is still clear that Eve sinned and was punished for it. She remains, not a myth, but a real woman, made to be a helpmeet for man, a position that no other creature could fill. God help us to learn by studying Eve to be obedient children so that we can fulfill our role as women in His kingdom.