In the 1950’s and 60’s when I was a child it seemed that sin was a man’s business. Men abused their wives (and sometimes their children), men committed adultery, and men abandoned their families. They had the freedom and the power—and they used it. At least that’s how it seemed—and it was true in many cases.
Women were faithful. They took care of their children, and they made ends meet with what little they were given. You rarely heard women curse, they usually dressed appropriately, and they were considered godly—at least in most cases. At least that’s how things appeared to me as a child.
To say times have changed in America is an understatement. Women now commonly leave their husbands and often abandon their children as well. Every sexual sin is shared by both genders today. Women have given in to the worldly ways of drinking, drugs, little clothing and less respect. Their freedom has led them to self-satisfaction, even to the point of aborting their own children.
Yes, we’ve come a long way. We have greater freedom and power—and look at what we’ve “profited!” Or rather, what we have given in exchange for our souls! Women have “profited” by gaining careers. I remember hearing women say they could have it all—a husband, family, and a career. And in the quest for it all, they gave up being “keepers at home” (Tit. 2:5). Many times their career even meant giving up their husband and/or children. Some women have had to work outside the home, I know that. My mother did when my dad left us. I became a teacher when my children went to school, but my home remained my number one focus and responsibility. My marriage and my family were not cast aside for the sake of my career.
Women have “profited” by gaining new roles. Women are running businesses, so why can’t they run the church? They can be president. Why can’t they be the head of their homes? The pendulum has swung, and unfortunately women have ignored God’s Word for the sake of so-called equality. “Modern thought” and “culture” are considered more important than the apostle Paul’s decree from the Holy Spirit: “..the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is the man, and he head of Christ is God” (1 Cor 11:3; note especially Eph. 5:23-24 and 1 Tim. 2:12-15 as well).
Sadly, many women have been fooled into living the “Perfect American Mother” role. They are more concerned about their children winning the scholarship, or becoming captain of the soccer team or cheerleader squad, or being popular or getting into a certain school than they are about their soul—about their Bible class homework or their treatment of others or their lives of service or worshipping properly. The world has re-defined what being a good mother is—but God’s definition remains! That definition always begins with proper priorities—seeking God and His righteousness first (Matt 6:33). That should be our main concern with our kids.
Women have “profited” by gaining the freedom in many more areas to make bad choices. God has always given mankind the freedom to choose. Yet now our freewill has been challenged by Satan. If you really are free (like men), why don’t you (fill in the blank)? Women have made every bad choice out there. Yes, we are free to choose any bad man who comes along (foolishly not considering how a mate who’s not a Christian can lead us away from the Lord). We are free to wear anything we want (never considering how we can cause a man to sin through lust). We are free to do whatever we want in our families (never considering how our behavior can ruin our relationship with our husband, teach our children self-serving ways, and cause our homes to crumble). We are free to seek popularity instead of godliness and seek personal happiness instead of holiness and money instead of God Himself (Matt 6:24; 1 Pet 1:15; Matt 6:2).
Women have “profited” by gaining selfishness. Yes, we can now have our way in so many areas. Like a child, women are yelling, “You’re not the boss of me!” and therefore becoming enraptured with self. “Deny thyself, take up thy cross, and follow me daily” (Lk. 9:23; Matt 16:24). Selfishness cannot be a part of the Christian heart—man or woman.
Women have “profited” by gaining equal access to worldliness. Yes, many are gaining the whole world but losing their own souls! The whole world — status, worldly goods, applause, approval, employment, and pleasure in every form — everything that seems to satisfy. Women can enjoy it all, but the irony is the world does not bring true happiness or joy. Now that women have equal access, they also enjoy the cost of worldly living. Their health is ruined and their beauty fades. They spend their lives seeking approval and love, not realizing they are really seeking God. Any satisfaction they find is only temporary (Matt. 5:6). Acquiring things only makes them want more. Love is short-lived because it is actually lust. Family relationships and true friendships are destroyed because the worldly woman isn’t willing to give of themselves for long. Making self happy is the priority.
God’s woman today truly profits her soul when she is selfless, willing to deny SELF and enthroning Jesus instead (Matt. 4:10). She truly profits when she is sacrificial, willing to lose her life for Christ’s sake (Matt. 16:25). She truly profits when she is serving, willing to serve in love, knowing she will be rewarded (Gal. 5:13). She truly profits when she is submissive, willing to submit to God, her husband, and others out of humility (Jas. 4:7; Eph. 5:25; 1 Pet. 5:5). She truly profits when she is sincere, willing to obey out of a true heart with gratitude and sincerity (Matt. 5:8; Eph. 6:24; Josh. 24:14).
In spite of cultural changes, God’s words remain the same (Is. 40:8). They will judge us in the last day (Jn. 12:48). God does not change (Mal. 3:6). We as women must stand strong, “steadfast and immovable” (1 Cor. 15:58), not allowing those about us to mold us but endeavoring to be transformed into the image of God’s dear Son. What are you giving in exchange for your soul?
Debbie is the author of Forty Years on the Second Pew, Am I Brave Enough?, and Staying Close to the Shepherd (yeomenpress.com).